Uyohlala Ubona Izingane Zilwela Ifa, Kodwa Akuvamile...

Mayelana Nezingane Nezingane Ezilwayo:

Ngokwebhayoloji, a Ingane (ubuningi izingane) Kuyinto womuntu ukuba phakathi kwezigaba ze ukuzalwa futhi ukuthomba, noma phakathi kwe isikhathi sokuthuthuka of ubuntwana kanye nokuthomba. Incazelo esemthethweni ye Ingane ngokuvamile ibhekisela ku-a encane, ngenye indlela owaziwa njengomuntu omncane kuno- iminyaka yeningi. Izingane ngokuvamile zinembalwa amalungelo kanye nesibopho esingaphansi abadala. Babhekwa njengabangakwazi ukwenza izinqumo ezingathi sína, futhi ngokomthetho kumelwe babe ngaphansi kokunakekelwa kwabazali babo noma omunye umnakekeli onomthwalo wemfanelo.

Ingane ingase futhi ichaze ubuhlobo nomzali (njenge amadodana futhi amadodakazi yanoma iyiphi iminyaka) noma, ngokomfanekiso, an isikhulu, noma abonise ubulungu beqembu emndenini, isizwe, noma inkolo; kungase futhi kubonise ukuthintwa kakhulu isikhathi esithile, indawo, noma isimo, njengokuthi “kumntwana wemvelo” noma “ingane Yeminyaka Yamashumi Ayisithupha”. (Izingane ezilwa)

Izincazelo zebhayoloji, zomthetho nezenhlalo

Ngokwebhayoloji, ingane ngumuntu phakathi kokuzalwa nokuthomba, noma phakathi kwe isikhathi sokuthuthuka of ubuntwana kanye nokuthomba. Ngokomthetho, igama Ingane ingase ibhekisele kunoma ubani ongaphansi kweminyaka yobudala eningi noma omunye umkhawulo weminyaka yobudala.

The izizwe Ezihlangene Umhlangano Emalungelo Ezingane ichaza Ingane “njengomuntu oneminyaka engaphansi kweyi-18 ngaphandle uma engaphansi umthetho okusebenzayo enganeni, iningi itholwe ngaphambili." Lokhu kugunyazwe amazwe angamalungu ayi-192 kwangu-194. Igama Ingane ingase futhi ibhekisele kumuntu ongaphansi komunye umkhawulo weminyaka yobudala echazwe ngokusemthethweni ongaxhumene nobudala beningi. Ku Singapore, isibonelo, a Ingane uchazwa ngokomthetho njengomuntu ongaphansi kweminyaka engu-14 ngaphansi “koMthetho Wezingane Nentsha” kuyilapho ubudala beningi bungama-21. EMthethweni Wezokufika wase-US, ingane ibhekisela kunoma ubani ongaphansi kweminyaka engu-21. (Kids Fighting)

Ezinye izincazelo zesiNgisi zegama Ingane faka i fetus (ngezinye izikhathi kuthiwa ongakazalwa). Emasikweni amaningi, umntwana uthathwa njengomuntu omdala ngemva kokwenza a umkhuba wokudlula, okungenzeka noma kungahambisani nesikhathi sokuthomba.

Izingane ngokuvamile zinamalungelo ambalwa kunabantu abadala futhi zihlukaniswa njengabangakwazi ukwenza izinqumo ezinqala, futhi ngokomthetho kufanele ngaso sonke isikhathi zibe ngaphansi kokunakekelwa komuntu omdala onomthwalo wemfanelo noma ukugcinwa kwengane, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi abazali babo bahlukanisile noma cha. Ukuqashelwa kobuntwana njengesimo esihlukile ebudala kwaqala ukuvela ngekhulu le-16 nele-17.

Umphakathi waqala ukuhlobana nengane hhayi njengomuntu omdala omncane kodwa njengomuntu osezingeni eliphansi lokuvuthwa odinga ukuvikelwa, uthando nokukhuliswa kwabantu abadala. Lolu shintsho lungalandelelwa emidwebeni: Ku Iminyaka ephakathi, izingane zavezwa ngobuciko njengabantu abadala abancane abangenazo izici ezifana nezengane. Ngekhulu le-16, izithombe zezingane zaqala ukubukeka njengengane ehlukile. Kusukela ngasekupheleni kwekhulu le-17 kuya phambili, izingane zaboniswa zidlala ngamathoyizi futhi kamuva izincwadi zezingane nazo zaqala ukukhula ngalesi sikhathi. (Izingane ezilwa)

Ubuntwana

Ubuntwana kulandela ubuntwana isiteji futhi iqala nge ubungane lapho ingane iqala ukukhuluma noma ukuthatha izinyathelo ngokuzimela.^[12] Nakuba ingane encane iphela lapho ineminyaka engu-3 ubudala lapho ingane inganciki kakhulu osizweni lwabazali ngezidingo eziyisisekelo, ubuntwana buqhubeka cishe kuze kube yiminyaka eyi-7. Nokho, ngokombiko Inhlangano Kazwelonke Yezemfundo Yezingane Ezincane, ubuntwana buhlanganisa nobungane.

Kulesi sigaba izingane zifunda ngokubuka, ukuhlola nokuxhumana nabanye. Abantu abadala baqondisa futhi basekele inqubo yokuthuthukiswa kwengane, okuzoholela ekuzibuseni kwengane. Futhi phakathi nalesi sigaba, isibopho esingokomzwelo esiqinile siyakhiwa phakathi kwengane nabahlinzeki bokunakekela. Izingane nazo ziqala isikole sasenkulisa kanye nenkulisa kule minyaka: futhi ngenxa yalokho ukuphila kwazo komphakathi. (Izingane ezilwa)

Ubuntwana obuphakathi

Ingane emaphakathi iqala lapho ineminyaka eyi-7, cishe iminyaka yesikole samabanga aphansi. Iphetha ngokuthomba (cishe iminyaka eyi-12 noma engu-13), okuvamise ukuphawula ukuqala kokuthomba. Kulesi sikhathi, izingane zikhula ngokwenhlalo nangokwengqondo. Basesigabeni lapho benza khona abangani abasha futhi bathole amakhono amasha, okuzobenza bakwazi ukuzimela futhi bathuthukise ubuntu babo. Ngesikhathi sobuntwana obuphakathi, izingane zingena eminyakeni yesikole, lapho zivezwa indawo ehlukile kunezijwayele. Lesi silungiselelo esisha sidala izinselele ezintsha nobuso bezingane. (Izingane ezilwa)

Lapho kungenwa esikoleni, kuvela ukuphazamiseka kwengqondo okungajwayelekile obekungabonwa. Eziningi zalezi zifo zihlanganisa: i-autism, i-dyslexia, i-dyscalculia, ne-ADHD. Imfundo ekhethekile, indawo enemingcele okungenani, impendulo yokungenelela futhi izinhlelo zemfundo ngayinye zonke ziyizinhlelo ezikhethekile zokusiza izingane ezikhubazekile. Ubuntwana obuphakathi yisikhathi lapho izingane ziqala ukuqonda umthwalo wemfanelo futhi ziqala ukulolongwa ontanga nabazali bazo. Imisebenzi kanye nezinqumo ezinomthwalo wemfanelo kakhulu kuza ngalesi sikhathi, kanjalo nokuqhathanisa komphakathi. Kanye nokuqhathanisa komphakathi kuza ukudlala komphakathi. Ngokudlala komphakathi kuza ukufunda nokufundisa. Ngesikhathi sokudlala komphakathi, izingane zifunda futhi zifundisane, ngokuvamile ngokubuka. (Izingane ezilwayo)

Intsha

Intsha ngokuvamile kunqunywa ukuthi kuphakathi kokuqala kokuthomba kanye nokuba umuntu omdala osemthethweni: ngokuvamile okuhambisana neminyaka yobusha (13-19). Nokho, ukuthomba ngokuvamile iqala ngaphambi kweminyaka yobusha. Nakuba ngokwebhayoloji ingane ingumuntu phakathi kwezigaba ze ukuzalwa futhi ukuthomba, ukuthomba kwamukelwa amasiko athile njengengxenye yenhlalo yobuntwana, ngoba intsha eningi ibhekwa njengezingane ngaphansi komthetho. (Izingane ezilwayo)

Ukuqala kokuthomba kuletha izinhlobonhlobo zomzimba, kwengqondo kanye nezinguquko zokuziphatha. Ukuphela kokuthomba nokuqala kobudala kuyehluka ngokwezwe nangomsebenzi, futhi ngisho nangaphakathi kwezwe elilodwa noma isiko kungase kube khona iminyaka ehlukene lapho umuntu ebhekwa njengovuthwe ngokwanele ukuba aphathiswe imisebenzi ethile ngumphakathi. (Izingane ezilwayo)

Uma umuntu engakuthanda ngenhliziyo yakhe yonke ngaphandle komkhondo wobugovu, umama wakho nobaba wakho! (Izingane ezilwayo)

Kepha kwesinye isikhathi sekwephuze kakhulu ukuthi sikubone lokhu...

Siyabuqonda ubuqotho nobumsulwa bothando lwabo lapho siba abazali, kodwa ngokuvamile abazali bethu abasahlali nathi ukuze balalele ukuthi sibathanda kangakanani...

Abazali bayizidalwa ezihlanzekile zikaNkulunkulu ezingenalutho ngaphandle kothando ezinhliziyweni zabo.

Basebenza imini nobusuku, ubusuku nemini abalali futhi balwa kanzima ukuze basinike konke futhi basenze lokhu esiyikho namuhla.

Akukhona okuhle futhi akumukeleki ukuwakhetha kunamaphepha athile, isakhiwo sezitini, noma isitokwe esithile.

Sikwenza singanakile… Kodwa kwesinye isikhathi ukuphenduka kwephuze kakhulu…

Uma usenabazali bakho, kubheke njengesipho esivela kuNkulunkulu manje.

Batshele ukuthi babalulekile kuwe! (Izingane ezilwayo)

Kanjani???

Sicela ulandele imibono echazwe ngezansi:

1. Lalela Imilayezo Yemizimba Yabo Ebuhlungu Futhi Uzame Ukuyilungisa:

Abazali bakho sebebadala manje bazame kanzima ukukunika impilo entofontofo, uyaphila namuhla.

Ikhaya, ibhalansi ekahle yasebhange, izimoto okufanele zigibele, imfundo enhle nothando oluningi, sikuthatha kalula njengabantwana.

Njengezingane, abazali baye banikela ukuphila kwabo konke ukuze basinike ukunethezeka okunjalo kokuphila.

Ngakho manje imizimba yabo ibuthakathaka, izacile futhi ikhathele, futhi sekuyisikhathi sakho sokubalapha.

Ukuvakashela udokotela njalo, usizo olunzulu empilweni kanye amanye amathuluzi ukusiza ukukhulula ubuhlungu, yilokho okumele ukwenze.

Khuthaza abazali bakho njengoba uphila ntofontofo. (Izingane ezilwayo)

2. Bavakashele Kanye Ngeviki, Bagone Isikhashana, Yazisa Imizamo Yabo & Uqoqe Izinkumbulo Zakusasa:

Uma wena nabazali bakho nihlukene nganoma yisiphi isizathu, batuse ngemizamo yabo yokuhlonipha isikhathi sakho sokuba wedwa.

Kufanele uyibuyisele ngothando oluthile, ukunakekela, nozwelo.

Uma uhlala kude, hamba uye emzini wabazali bakho okungenani kanye ngesonto, uchithe isikhathi nabo futhi ubazise ukuthi babaluleke kangakanani kuwe.

Banike isipho noma gqoka ihembe elinezinzipho zomzali. (Izingane ezilwayo)

Kuyobajabulisa ngenhliziyo yonke.

3. Ungaphikisani Nabo Kunalokho Banikeze Inhlonipho Ebafanele, Tshala Ikusasa:

Abazali nezingane bavame ukuba ngabezizukulwane ezihlukene ngakho-ke bavame ukuba nemibono ehlukene.

Ngakho-ke, abazali nezingane baxabana njalo.

Akukho lutho olungalungile ngokuba nengxoxo enempilo, kodwa ukuba luhlaza kubazali bakho akwamukeleki.

Noma nini lapho uxabana noma uxabana nabazali bakho, zama ukubancenga noma ubanikeze umbono wakho ngenhlonipho.

Kodwa uma nizicasula ungaqondile;

Xolisa kubo ngesipho sokuxolisa. (Izingane ezilwayo)

Ngokwenza lokhu, ubuye utshale imali esikhathini esizayo, ngoba njengoba uthi “uvuna okutshalile” izingane zakho zizokuhlonipha njengoba ukhula.

4. Xhuma Uthando Lwabo Ezinganeni Zakho- Uthando Lwabo Lumsulwa Futhi LunobuNkulunkulu:

Abazali bakho bayisibusiso hhayi kuwe kuphela, kodwa nasezinganeni zakho. (Izingane ezilwa)

Ogogo nomkhulu nabazukulu banokuxhumana okukhethekile, futhi uma uke waba nogogo nomkhulu isikhashana, uzohlobana.

Ukuba nogogo nomkhulu akuyona nje into ejabulisayo, kodwa bangothisha abakhulu.

Abazukulu bafunda kangcono futhi baqonde kangcono lokho abazali babo ababatshela khona.

Ngakho-ke, njalo ukusiza izingane zakho ukuxhumana nogogo nomkhulu. (Izingane ezilwayo)

Bathande ngokwanele ngaphambi kokuthi Bahambe Phakade...

Okokugcina, sonke siyazi ukuthi ukufa kuyiqiniso elibuhlungu, kodwa asazi ukuthi kuyofika nini futhi kuthathe abantu esibathandayo. (Izingane ezilwayo)

Ngakho-ke, zama ukuqongelela izinkumbulo zaphakade nabo baze babe abazali bakho.

Ngelinye ilanga uzophuthelwa ukwenza lokhu. (Izingane ezilwa)

Futhi, ungakhohlwa ukuphina/ibhukumaka futhi uvakashele blog ngolwazi oluthe xaxa oluthokozisayo kodwa lwangempela. (I-Vodka kanye nejusi yamagilebhisi)