Indlela Yokusungula Ubudlelwano Obuhle Besifazane Oboshiwe? Amaleveli, Imithetho, Namathiphu + Izici Zokubuka Endodeni

Sonke sijwayele ubudlelwano bendabuko lapho umuntu wesilisa “enomthwalo wemfanelo”, “engamele” noma “enqumayo” ebudlelwaneni.

Nokho, ingabe uyazi ukuthi lezi zindima zobulili zingashintshwa? Yebo. Sikhuluma ngobudlelwano obuholwa ngabesifazane, noma i-FLR. Banayo!

Wake wezwa ngalolu hlobo lobudlelwano? Awu, usuzokwenza.

Lo mhlahlandlela uzosiza noma ubani ofuna ukuthola imibono, amathiphu kanye neziqondiso ezijwayelekile zokwakha i-FLR noma ukuyenza isebenze ngaphandle kokuzwa ingcindezi yomphakathi.

Ngakho-ke, kungcono yini ukuba umbhangqwana obuswa abesifazane?

Ingabe kukhona okubi? Ingabe ikhona indlela yokuthi ubudlelwano obusha noma obudala obuphethwe abesifazane bungahambi kahle kwabesilisa noma abesifazane?

Ake sithole konke mayelana nobudlelwano obuholwa ngabesifazane (FLR)! (I-Female Led Relationship)

Female Led Relationship

I-FLR, noma ubudlelwano obuholwa ngabesifazane, yitemu eliphelele elihlanganisa amazinga ahlukene obudlelwane obuphethwe ngabesifazane. (I-Female Led Relationship)

Ngokuvamile, lapho umbhangqwana wendabuko ushintsha izindima, kuba i-FLR.

Owesifazane ungumenzi wezinqumo kanye negunya elinesibopho ebudlelwaneni. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, iduna lithatha indima yokuzithoba.

Kwephula inkolelo yokuba sebudlelwaneni besilisa obabusayo, kungaba semshadweni, ebunganeni, ekuthembiseni umshado noma nje ukuqomisana.

Kodwa iyini incazelo yangempela yobudlelwano obuholwa abesifazane? (I-Female Led Relationship)

FLR Incazelo

Ngaphambi kokuthi siqonde ukuthi buyini ubudlelwano obuholwa ngabantu besifazane, ake sicacise into eyodwa.

Akukhona konke mayelana nesiko lokukhwabanisa noma izincazelo ezimnyama esizibona kuwebhu yonke.

Yebo! Kubandakanya ukuxhumana okuphansi kuya kokuqina, kodwa kuncike ekuqondeni kwabo bobabili abantu. (I-Female Led Relationship)

Ngakho-ke, incazelo eyisisekelo ye-FLR ukuthi owesifazane unesibopho sazo zonke izinto ezibalulekile, izinqumo nezindaba.

Ngakolunye uhlangothi, indoda ihlala ekhaya, yenza imisebenzi yasendlini evamile, ikhulise izingane, futhi ithatha indima yokuzithoba ebuhlotsheni.

Ingabe ihlukile ebudlelwaneni obujwayelekile obuholwa ngamadoda? Ake sithole. (I-Female Led Relationship)

Ukuqhathanisa: Ukufana Nomehluko Wobudlelwano Bendoda Eholayo kanye Nobudlelwano Obuhole Kwabesifazane

Uma sithatha indlela evamile, ukufana okuyinhloko kubo bobabili ubudlelwano ukuthi umuntu oyedwa ukhethwa njengegunya elivelele nelinomthwalo wemfanelo. (I-Female Led Relationship)

Lokhu kwenza omunye umuntu azithobe ngokuzenzakalelayo futhi angabi namandla.

Uyini umehluko? Ebudlelwaneni besilisa obuvelele, kuqinisekiswa ukuthi owesilisa uthatha isandla esiphezulu.

Kodwa-ke, ebudlelwaneni obuholwa ngabesifazane, izinhlangothi zombili zinquma ukuthi ziyafuna yini ukuba umbhangqwana we-FLR.

Yebo! Owesilisa uthola ithuba lokuzikhethela ukuthi uyafuna yini ukulawulwa nokuholwa ngowesifazane esingavamisile ukumbona ebudlelwaneni obujwayelekile obuholwa ngamadoda. (I-Female Led Relationship)

Ebudlelwaneni obujwayelekile besilisa, nguyena owondla umndeni futhi nguye yedwa onesibopho sokuxhasa umndeni ngokwezimali.

Nokho, ebudlelwaneni obuholwa ngabantu besifazane, bobabili ubulili badinga ukwesekwa ngokwezimali, umsebenzi wasendlini, imisebenzi yomphakathi, njll. (Ubudlelwano Obuholayo besifazane)

Bobabili bangaveza imizwa yabo ngokukhululekile.

Qiniseka ukuthi uyaqonda, ku-FLR izindima zobulili azishintshwa ngokuphelele, kodwa zishintshwa kancane ukuze kwenziwe izinqumo zibe sobala ngokubandakanya bobabili ozakwethu. (I-Female Led Relationship)

Lesi yisizathu esikhulu esenza bakhethe ukuba se-FLR njengoba kunikeza abesifazane umuzwa wenkululeko, igunya, amandla, ukwanda. ukuzethemba nokuzethemba.

Manje, umbuzo uphakama ukuthi kungani owesilisa engathanda ukuba sebudlelwaneni obubuswa abesifazane?

Njengoba ubuhlobo obuholwa nabesifazane bunelisa ubunjalo bangempela bendoda, ekugcineni ikhululiwe ekucindezelweni kwezimali nemithwalo yemfanelo yasekhaya. (I-Female Led Relationship)

Sixoxile ngazo zonke izizathu kamuva kumhlahlandlela wethu. Manje, ake sixoxe ngokuthi kungani indoda ingafuna ukuba sebudlelwaneni obuholwa ngabesifazane.

Kungani Abesilisa Bafuna I-FLR?

Lapho sizwa ngowesilisa ofuna owesifazane onamandla nozethembayo, into yokuqala efika engqondweni ukuthi, “Kungani indoda elawulayo ibheka owesifazane onamandla?” Kungenzeka. Iqiniso? (I-Female Led Relationship)

Kuvamile ukucabanga kanjalo, njengoba sonke sikujwayele ukubona amadoda ebusa ebudlelwaneni.

Owesilisa angase akhethe ukuba sebudlelwaneni obuholwa ngabesifazane ngenxa yalezi zinzuzo ezilandelayo:

• Kudinga inkululeko nokukhululeka emithwalweni yemali, ingcindezi yokwenza izinqumo ezibalulekile, nokuba nesibopho ngazo zonke izikhathi. (I-Female Led Relationship)
• Baphathwa ngokulinganayo ebudlelwaneni futhi abasenawo umthwalo wokondla umndeni ngo-100%.
• Angakwazi ukuveza nokukhuluma ngokukhululekile akucabangayo futhi angadingi ukucindezela isimo sakhe sokulalela.
• Ingakwazi ukuzivikela! Yebo! Kungagcina kuphule inkambiso yenhlalo lapho indoda ihlezi ilawula, ibusa futhi inamandla. Uyakwazi ukukhombisa imizwa yakhe ku-FLR. (I-Female Led Relationship)

Inkulumo eyanele mayelana nezinzuzo zethiyori nokuthi kungani indoda ikhetha i-FLR noma yiziphi izinzuzo azozithola kuyo.

Konke kungase kubonakale kungenasisekelo futhi kuyinkohliso koqalayo ukuthi lolu hlobo lobudlelwano lumfanele yini noma cha.

Ukuze siqonde kangcono, ake sihlole izibalo ezithile zokuphila kwangempela esigabeni sethu esilandelayo ukuze siqinisekise ukuthi kunezizathu ezimbalwa ezinhle zokuthi kungani ubuhlobo obuholwa abesifazane budumile. (I-Female Led Relationship)

Izibalo kanye Nenhlolovo Yangempela Yabesifazane Abashadile Abashadile

Ubudlelwano be-FLR akulona itemu elisha, kodwa buya ngokuya buduma e-US ngemuva kokuthi abalandeli bokulingana ngokobulili nabalwela amalungelo abesifazane benqume ukwephula imikhuba yobulili nezigaba zomphakathi. (I-Female Led Relationship)

Kusukela lapho, abantu baseMelika bebenomqondo ovulekile ebudlelwaneni obunjalo.

Ngisho namadoda asezindaweni zokuqomisana aseqalile ukwengeza 'Ngifuna owesifazane onamandla' noma 'Ngifuna owesifazane onekhono' kumaphrofayela abo. (I-Female Led Relationship)

Ngokwezibalo zocwaningo, u-65% wabesifazane abasebasha bake baba nemishado yangaphambili eholwa ngabesifazane, kanti ngaphezu kuka-70% yemishado ye-FLR iye yathatha iminyaka engaphezu kwengu-6.

Sekukonke, u-70% wabesifazane abasebasha banayo noma banentshisekelo ku-FLR.

Abashadikazi abayisi-8 kwabayi-10 baveze ukuthi bajabule kakhulu futhi banelisekile ngamandla nokusatshalaliswa kwendima. (I-Female Led Relationship)

Ngaphambi kokuthi siqhubeke nokufunda mayelana nezinzuzo ezengeziwe ze-FLR zabesilisa nabesifazane, ake sibuke ividiyo yenhlolovo mayelana nezithandani eziholwa abesifazane:

Ezinye izizathu zokuduma kobudlelwano obuholwa abesifazane:

• Iqeda imibango yamandla: zombili izinhlangothi zinquma ngokuhlanganyela ukuthi ubani ozoba isiphathimandla esilawulayo, esinamandla nesinesibopho. (I-Female Led Relationship)
• Kuvumela amadoda ukuthi aveze uhlangothi lwawo lokuzithoba: akusadingeki ukuba enze ubudoda futhi abe nomthwalo wemfanelo wazo zonke izidingo zomndeni.
• Khulisa ukuzethemba nokuzethemba: Abesifazane be-Alpha nabesilisa abazithobayo babonisa imvelo yabo yangempela
• Iqinisa izibopho: Inciphisa izingxabano njengoba owesifazane ehlanganyela imizwa yakhe ngaphandle kokungabaza.

Izinzuzo Owesifazane Angazithola ku-FLR

Nakuba zonke izinzuzo ezingaba khona ubudlelwano obuholwa abesifazane obungaba nazo kowesifazane emphakathini ovamile zibonakala ngokucacile. (I-Female Led Relationship)

Noma kunjalo, sibhale ezinye zezinzuzo eziyinhloko ngezansi:

• Owesifazane angagxila emsebenzini wakhe njengoba ekwazi ukuhlanganyela imisebenzi yasekhaya neminye imisebenzi yasendlini nomlingani wakhe.
• Uzizwa ehlonishwa futhi ebandakanyeka ngokulinganayo ekugcineni nasekuthuthukiseni ubudlelwano.
• Njengoba ubuhlobo obuholwa ngowesifazane bunikeza owesifazane amandla nobuholi phezu kwendoda, kungamsiza ukuba alahle imikhuba emibi nemisebenzi. (I-Female Led Relationship)
• Owesifazane uzizwa evikelekile ku-FLR ngoba unesabelo esilinganayo noma esikhulu kukho konke.
• Ekugcineni angakuzwa ukubaluleka kwayo okuletha ushintsho oluhle empilweni yakhe, ukuzethemba nobuntu bakhe.

Zonke lezi zinzuzo, ukwabiwa kwendima, imisebenzi, kanye nezibopho konke kuncike emazingeni obudlelwano besifazane ubuhlobo bakho obukuwo njengamanje.

Ngakho yiziphi lezi zigaba? Ake sithole! (I-Female Led Relationship)

Ungangena Kanjani Ebudlelwaneni Bomuntu wesifazane?

Ukuqala ubudlelwano obuholwa ngabesifazane kufana nanoma yiluphi olunye uhlobo lobudlelwano. (I-Female Led Relationship)

Ngokocwaningo lwangempela lwe-FLR, isigamu semibhangqwana yayingazi ngisho nokuba khona kobudlelwane obulawulwa abesifazane, futhi abantu abangu-3 kwaba-4 babhekana nakho okokuqala.

Nokho abangaphezu kuka-85% imibhangqwana babenomshado we-FLR onempilo nophumelelayo noma ukuphila kokuthandana.

Ngakho usithatha kanjani isinyathelo kuqala futhi ungene ebuhlotsheni obunjalo obuyingqayizivele? (I-Female Led Relationship)

• Xhumana nozakwenu futhi wabelane ngemicabango yakho nge-FLR
• Cela imvume yabo uma bengakhululeka ukuba munye
• Ngemva kokuvumelana, ngaphambi kokugxumela kukho, qoqa lonke ulwazi ngakho bese uzama ukuqonda ukuthi kuyini nokuthi kusho ukuthini ukuba ndawonye.
• Okokugcina, khuluma nesithandwa sakho, isoka noma umlingani wakho ukuthi yiliphi izinga lobudlelwane obuholwa nabesifazane angathanda ukuqala ngalo. (I-Female Led Relationship)

Ithiphu le-Pro: Zama njalo ukwehlisa ijubane kusukela ekuqaleni ukuze ugweme noma yikuphi ukungakhululeki nezingxabano esikhathini esizayo.

Ngakho wazi kanjani ukuthi yiliphi izinga lobudlelwano be-FLR elizokusebenzela kangcono? Yithole esigabeni sethu esilandelayo! (I-Female Led Relationship)

Thola Ileveli Ephelele Yobudlelwano Besifazane Eholwa Umbhangqwana Wakho

Eqinisweni, zonke izigaba, amazinga, kanye nezinhlobo zobudlelwane bomholi wesifazane zibandakanya owesifazane ovelele. (I-Female Led Relationship)

Kodwa-ke, izinga indima yabo ephakeme ngayo kunowesilisa ozithobayo kuncike emazingeni obudlelwane be-FLR nokuqina.

Emhlabeni jikelele ungathola ulwazi oluhlukile njengokuthi 'ubudlelwane obuhle kakhulu owesifazane angaba nabo' noma 'indoda ithola izinzuzo'. (I-Female Led Relationship)

Kodwa kuyiqiniso futhi ukuthi ubudlelwano obuholwa abesifazane akubona bonke abantu.

Yebo, i-FLR ivamise ukuhlukaniswa ngezinhlobo ezine ukuze kuqondwe kangcono bobabili ubulili.

Uma ucabanga ukungena ku-FLR, qala wazi ukuthi yiliphi izinga ozozizwa ukhululekile kulo, noma uma usothandweni oluholwa abesifazane, yazi izinga lakho elinembile futhi uthuthukise ukufaneleka kwakho kangcono nakakhulu. (I-Female Led Relationship)

Masibazi bonke:

1. Izinga-1 FLR

Ubudlelwano obuncane noma obuncane obuholwa ngabesifazane buwukuqondana phakathi kwendoda nowesifazane. (I-Female Led Relationship)

Iqhaza elikhulu lowesifazane lincane kakhulu, futhi ngokuvamile udinga imvume yowesilisa ukuze enze izinqumo ezithile ebudlelwaneni.

Kwesinye isikhathi uba nenkululeko yokubeka imibono yakhe, kanti kwesinye isikhathi akabi nayo. Ukuthi angaba yi-alfa engakanani ngempela kuncike endodeni. (I-Female Led Relationship)

Emazingeni aphansi obudlelwano be-FLR, owesifazane akazicabangeli njengonamandla kanti owesilisa akazithobi.

Kunalokho, uyazi ukuthi imibono yazo zombili izinhlangothi kumelwe ihambisane ukuze yenze isinqumo. Bashintshana izipho ezinengqondo ngezikhathi ezikhethekile njengezinsuku zokuzalwa, ama-valentines noma ama-anniversary ngaphandle kokuzizwa uphakeme kunomunye. (I-Female Led Relationship)

Nakhu ukulandisa okuyisisekelo owesilisa noma owesifazane osezingeni eliphansi lobudlelwane obuholwa nabesifazane angaba nakho:

Umbono wesilisa: Ukholelwa ekulinganeni kobulili futhi ufuna ukuba nobudlelwano bokuqonda nozakwenu lapho angasiza khona futhi ahlanganyele ukuze amqondise endleleni efanele. (I-Female Led Relationship)

Ukubuka Kwabesifazane: Uyathanda ukuba etotoswa izipho ezithokozisayo kodwa akafuni ukuzibophezela emcabangweni wokulawula umuntu.

Ithiphu Yabesifazane: Uma owesifazane efuna ukuhola i-FLR futhi ahlabe umyeni wakhe umxhwele, umyeni wakhe angamthengela izipho eziningi ukuze athandane naye kunanini ngaphambili. (I-Female Led Relationship)

Imithetho yezinga loku-1 le-FLR:

• Isivumelwano esihlanganyelwe ekuhlukaniseni izibopho, izindima kanye nomsebenzi
• Kwezinye izimo, owesilisa uyakhonya. Kwezinye, owesifazane wenza isinqumo sokugcina.

Amathiphu Okwenza Kusebenze:

• Ukuze ugweme noma yikuphi ukuphazamiseka, xhumana ukuze unqume futhi uhambisane nemithetho emisiwe
• Thembeka futhi ube obala mayelana nezidingo zakho kanye nezinhloso zakho
• Shintshanisa izipho ukuze wenze abanye bazizwe bekhethekile futhi bebalulekile (Ubudlelwano Obuholayo Owesifazane)

I-Pro-Tip: Hlola izipho zowesifazane onakho konke noma ubona izipho zendoda engenakwenzeka ekhetha kakhulu ukuthenga.

Qiniseka ukuthi awushiyi lutho olungaguquki ukuze nijabulisane!

2. Izinga-2 FLR

Njengoba izinga likhuphuka, ubuntu obuvelele bowesifazane buba sobala kakhulu ebudlelwaneni. (I-Female Led Relationship)

Kodwa-ke, ezingeni elilinganiselwe lobudlelwane be-FLR, owesifazane ubeka imingcele yokuthi indoda ihole.

Lolu uhlobo lwe-FLR lapho ukwanda kokuzethemba nokuzihlonipha kungabonwa ngoba owesifazane wazi kahle ukuthi uphakeme kwezinye izindawo.

Kumuntu ofuna ukubona ukuthi lolu hlobo lobudlelwano lubalungele yini, ukuba sebuhlotsheni obuholwa ngabantu besifazane kungaba yizinga eliphelele. (I-Female Led Relationship)

Kungaba yini isizathu? Indoda ingajabulela ukubusa futhi ngesikhathi esifanayo inikeze owesifazane umuzwa wenjabulo nokuzethemba.

Umbono Wendoda: Owesilisa unamahloni noma uyazithoba futhi uthanda ukulawulwa umlingani wakhe. Noma kunjalo, ufuna ukuba nomthwalo wemfanelo ezindabeni ezithile.

Umbono Wabesifazane: Ukholelwa ebudlelwaneni 'bokupha futhi uphe'. Owesifazane ufuna ukwenza umlingani wakhe ajabule, kodwa futhi ufuna izinzuzo ezithile ngokubuyisela. (I-Female Led Relationship)

Imithetho yezinga loku-2 le-FLR:

• Owesifazane ungumenzi wezinqumo ovelele ezindabeni ezithile.
• Umkhawulo unqunywa ukuthi owesifazane angahamba ibanga elingakanani ukuze asebenzise amandla akhe.
• Abantu bakhululekile ukukhuluma abakucabangayo futhi baveze imizwa yabo.

Amathiphu Okwenza Kusebenze:

• Yabelana ngemicabango yakho, imibono kanye nemizwa yakho ngaphambi kokuba kuthathwe isinqumo
• Hlonipha imingcele futhi ukhulume uma umlingani engajabule
• Khululekani omunye nomunye futhi ningalaleli ukuthi abanye abantu bathini

Nazi ezinye izingcaphuno zothando engathunyelwa ngu a insizwa noma intombazane ethandekayo ukukhumbula ukuthi kungani bebhalisele i-FLR. (I-Female Led Relationship)

3. Izinga-3 FLR

Leli izinga le-FLR lapho ubudlelwano obuholwa abesifazane buchazwa khona, ekugcineni okusho ukuthi owesifazane ungowesikhulu noma unegunya. (I-Female Led Relationship)

Kalula nje, kuphambene nobudlelwano bendabuko obuholwa ngamadoda.

Owesifazane uthatha imithwalo yemfanelo ebalulekile yalowo ophethe, njengemali yesibonelelo, imali engenayo, kanye nokuthatha izinqumo.

Ngokuphambene, iduna lifana nentokazi elalelayo enomthwalo wemfanelo wokwenza umsebenzi wasekhaya, ukukhulisa izingane, nokugcina ophethe ejabule. (I-Female Led Relationship)

Ngamafuphi, ezingeni elichaziwe noma elisemthethweni le-FLR, kunomugqa ocacile ohlukanisayo phakathi kowesilisa ozithobayo nowesifazane ovelele.

Umbono Wabesilisa: I-alpha ithanda ukubuswa owesifazane. Uthanda ukulinda umlingani wakhe, athole izincomo, enze abesifazane bajabule futhi abe yindoda elungile, elalelayo.

Ukubuka Kwabesifazane: Uthanda ukulawula ikusasa lombhangqwana kanye nenhlalakahle yomlingani wakhe. (I-Female Led Relationship)

Imithetho yezinga loku-3 le-FLR:

• Izindima zendabuko ziyashintshwa: amadoda athatha umthwalo wokwenza umsebenzi wasekhaya, ukukhulisa izingane
• Owesifazane ungumlingani ovelele okufanele ahole futhi enze imali.
• Abesifazane benza izinqumo ezibaluleke kakhulu endodeni, umuntu ngamunye nanjengombhangqwana.
• Indoda ivuma ukunikeza ikhanda kunkosikazi kuzo zonke izindaba.

Amathiphu Okwenza Kusebenze:

• Buyekeza ukuthi ubudlelwano buhamba kanjani nokuthi bobabili abesilisa nabesifazane banelisekile futhi bajabule ngezindima eziphambene.
• Khumbula, i-FLR ayikona ukusebenzisa kabi amandla, imayelana nokwenza bobabili ozakwethu bajabule.
• Qaphela uma owesifazane ebusa kakhulu futhi engafani nesithandwa sakho, unkosikazi noma intombi yakho.

4. Izinga-4 FLR

Lobu budlelwano obuholwa ngabantu besifazane ngokwezinga elithile buthathwa njengobunempilo encane kunamanye amazinga lapho owesifazane oyedwa ebusa khona.

Ubudlelwano obudlulele be-FLR bufana nesixhumanisi phakathi kwendlovukazi nesigqila sayo.

Owesifazane ulawula zonke izici zendoda, kungaba isikhathi sakhe sokuphumula, imisebenzi, izinto azithandayo, impilo yomuntu siqu noma izindaba zezezimali.

Indoda ibonisa ukulalela futhi ijabule futhi yanelisekile ngokunakwa ekuthola kumlingani wayo.

Ubudlelwano obuholwa abesifazane ngokwedlulele buthathwa njengobushubile futhi bubucayi.

Noma kunjalo, amanye amadoda athanda ukuphathwa kanzima, ngenkani, nangokuphoqelela ngabalingani bawo. Lokhu kuziphatha okungajwayelekile kwenelisa ukuzithoba, ubuthaka kanye namahloni owesilisa.

Umbono Wabesilisa: Owesilisa angase athandeke kakhulu noma abe nomuzwa onamandla wokuzithoba owesifazane anomuzwa wokuthi kunamandla okuyilawula. Ngokuvamile kubukeka njengomuntu olahliwe.

Ukubuka Kwabesifazane: Unemvelo yokulawula kanye nesifiso samandla. Esikhundleni sokubheka indoda ephelele, ufuna ukusebenzisa isifiso sakhe esinamandla sokuguqula indoda evamile ibe umuntu ayithandayo.

Imithetho yezinga loku-4 le-FLR:

• Abesifazane baphakeme kukho konke.
• Owesifazane ngumuntu ozikhethela owesilisa ngokwezezimali, ezokuhlalisana nabanye abantu.
• Indoda icabanga ukuthi ithobekile futhi iphansi kunentokazi.

Amathiphu Okwenza Kusebenze:

• Ukubuyekezwa okujwayelekile kwezindima nezibopho ngakho-ke akukho okuhlukumeza kakhulu noma okuphoqayo.
• Ungakhohlwa isisekelo sobudlelwano bakho: Uthando

Ungabusungula Kanjani Ubudlelwano Oboshiwe Kwabesifazane?

Ukwenza ubudlelwano be-FLR buphumelele, owesilisa nowesifazane kumele baqale bamise imithetho yobudlelwano eholwa ngabesifazane abazoyilandela kuwo wonke amazinga.

Futhi ngisho nangaphambi kwalokho, badinga ukuxhumana futhi bavume ukuhileleka ebuhlotsheni obunjalo.

Ngakho-ke, isikhathi esingcono kakhulu sokuqala ubudlelwano obuholwa ngabesifazane sisekuqaleni kobudlelwano benu.

Yebo! Xoxa ngalokhu nophathina wakho ezigabeni zokuqala zokuqomisana noma ngaphambi kokuba nishade.

Ukusungula i-FLR enhle, kubalulekile ukuthi bobabili abalingani bazimisele ukuba umbhangqwana ophethwe ngabesifazane.

Sibale eminye yemithetho yobudlelwano obuholwa ngabesifazane ebalulekile ekwenzeni lolu hlobo lomsebenzi wokuxhuma:

• Owesifazane unomthwalo wemfanelo wokwenza imali, ukwabelana ngemisebenzi nokuthatha izinqumo zempilo ngekusasa lombhangqwana.
• Amadoda enza imisebenzi eminingi yasendlini, njengokuhlanza, ukupheka nokuwasha izingubo
• Indoda inokuningi ekushoyo mayelana nokuthi izosichitha kanjani isikhathi sayo esikhululekile, imihlangano yokuzijabulisa engaya kuyo, njll. Ithemba owesifazane ukuthi angenza izinqumo ezinjalo.
• Owesifazane unamandla okulawula imikhuba emibi yendoda.

Yiziphi Izimfanelo Okufanele Indoda Ingene Ku-FLR?

Uma owesifazane efuna ukuba nobudlelwano obuholwa ngabantu besifazane, kufanele abheke owesilisa ozovuma ukuzithoba. Kodwa ingabe kulula kanjalo?

Njengoba sonke sazi, amadoda amaningi anamandla anamandla abesilisa.

Kuwumkhuba futhi ukuthi amadoda abe ngabalingani abavelele ebudlelwaneni, okwenza ubuhlobo bube nzima nakakhulu.

Ngakho yiziphi izimfanelo okufanele uzibheke endodeni uma ufuna umshado we-FLR noma ukuphola?

Lapha, sikukhulumele izici ezithile:

1. Vula Ingqondo: Ufuna Ukuzama Izinto Ezintsha

Indoda ethanda ukuzama izinto ezintsha kunezijwayelekile nezijwayelekile izoba umlingani ophelele ebuhlotsheni obuholwa besifazane. Isibonelo, owesilisa owomele ukufunda nokuzama izinto ezintsha mayelana nobudlelwano obuhlukahlukene.

Noma lowo ongenandaba uma elawulwa owesifazane kwezinye izinto futhi abone njengento eyingqayizivele.

2. I-Beta Male: Ikhathele Ukuba Nesibopho

Indoda ezibona njengendoda ye-beta kune-alpha, ayikholelwa esikweni labesilisa elibusayo lapho iyona kuphela enomthwalo wemfanelo wokunakekela umndeni, ukwenza imali nokwenza izinqumo ezibalulekile.

Indoda enalezi zimfanelo iyojabula futhi yaneliseke emshadweni oholwa abesifazane.

3. Ukuzimela: Akuthathi Ingcindezi Evela Emphakathini

Lesi yisici esibalulekile okufanele usibheke endodeni, njengoba ingcindezi yomphakathi kanye nokwahlulela kwabantu kungezinye zezinto ezingase zibe nemiphumela emibi emishadweni eholwa ngabesifazane noma imibhangqwana ye-FLR.

Isibalo sowesilisa kufanele kube umuntu ongathonywa kalula ingcindezi yomphakathi noma izahlulelo zabanye abantu, futhi onemibono eqinile.

Isibonelo, uyazi ukuthi uluhlobo luni lobudlelwano futhi akazizwa edidekile, engajabule noma enganelisekile.

4. Ukuzinza Ngokomzwelo: Akukho Ukungazethembi noma Imizwa Ecindezelwe

Indoda engazethembi ingampintsha ngisho indoda enamandla nenamandla, ngakho, cha, cha! Ngeke kube inketho enhle kunoma ibuphi ubudlelwano obuholwa ngabesifazane.

Manje njengoba usuzazi izici ezibalulekile okufanele uzibheke endodeni.

Futhi, ake sithi usuyitholile, yini elandelayo?

Yisiphi isikhathi esingcono kakhulu sokusetha i-FLR? Ngemva kwezinyanga zokuthandana noma zomshado?

Nokho, indlela engcono kakhulu yokuba nobudlelwano obuholwa abesifazane kusezigabeni zokuqala zokuqomisana nangaphambi komshado wenu. Yebo!

Ubudlelwano obuholwa ngabesifazane bungasebenza kuphela uma izinhlangothi zombili zikhuluma ngakho ngaphambi kokuqala ubudlelwano babo obusemthethweni.

Indoda idinga ukusekela ubufazi, impilo engokomzwelo, nemigomo yokuphila kowesifazane.

Ngesikhathi esifanayo, owesifazane uzoqinisekisa ukuthi indoda ikhululekile, yanelisekile futhi ijabule ebuhlotsheni.

Indlela engcono kakhulu yokwakha ubudlelwano obunempilo ebuswa abesifazane ukulinganisa izindima, izibopho, kanye nezifiso zomlingani ophethe futhi ozithobayo.

Ukuze baqonde ngokwengeziwe ubudlelwano obuphethwe ngabalingani, bobabili abalingani bangakwazi ukuya emaqenjini okusekela e-FLR, bahambele izikhathi zokuqeqesha, bafunde izincwadi ezihlobene njengothando nokulalela: uchungechunge, futhi babukele namaphodikasti aku-inthanethi.

Ngaphambi kokuthi siqhubekele phambili, ake sibukele inhlolokhono ye-podcast yombhangqwana wobudlelwane oholwa ngabesifazane wangempela empilweni: u-Joanne no-Brian.

Thola ukuthi bakwazi kanjani ukujabula, ukwaneliseka nokukhululeka kuzo zonke izingcindezi nokwahlulelwa komphakathi:

Ingabe Ubudlelwano Obukhokhelwayo besifazane Busebenza?

Yebo! Kungasebenza njengabo bonke ubudlelwano obujwayelekile.

Ngokocwaningo lwabashadikazi, abangaphezu kuka-80% abashadikazi be-FLR bathi banelisekile ngokusatshalaliswa kwezindima.

Eqinisweni, amadoda angama-91% ayekujabulela ukulawulwa nokwenza imisebenzi yamantombazane.

Nokho, ukuze bakhe ubuhlobo obuqinile, bobabili ubulili kufanele benze umzamo othile kanye nokucabanga ukwenza ubuhlobo babo bube ngcono. Nawa amathiphu akho:

• Gcina ukulingana phakathi kwezindima ezivelele nezizithobayo
• Yiba nokuxhumana okuvulekile, okungukuthi, vumela bobabili abalingani ukuthi baveze izinjongo nemibono yabo ngokukhululekile
• Buyekeza njalo ukuqhubeka nezinkinga zobudlelwano
• Hlalani nishintshana ngezipho, izincomo noma amazwi othando ukuze nigcine umoya wothando uphila.
• Yakha ukuqondana futhi ubeke imigomo nemithetho esebenza kubo bobabili abantu
• Ungakubekezeleli noma yikuphi ukuhlukumeza njengoba i-FLR ingewona umbango wamandla

Ungabhekana Kanjani Nezinkanyezi Zabantu, Ukwahlulela, kanye Nokucindezela Komphakathi?

Ithiphu yokuqala nebaluleke kakhulu ukungazinaki ingcindezi yomphakathi kanye nezahlulelo zabantu.

Yebo, kungase kube nzima kwabaqalayo, kodwa iyona ndlela kuphela yokuzizwa wanelisekile ngobudlelwane bakho obuholwa abesifazane.

Okwesibili, kufanele ulwele ukugcina 'uthando' luphila kumbhangqwana wakho ngaso sonke isikhathi, noma ngabe i-FLR, ubudlelwano obulinganayo, noma ubudlelwano obuholwa ngamadoda.

Okokugcina, zilungiselele ukuthi lolu hlobo lobudlelwano akuwona olujwayelekile noma lwendabuko.

Sonke sijwayele ukubona ekuphileni kwethu kwansuku zonke ukuthi abesifazane kuphela abanesibopho somsebenzi wasendlini futhi amadoda anesibopho sokusekelwa ngezimali.

Ngaphandle kwalokho, okuwukuphela kwento ebalulekile ebudlelwaneni bakho injabulo yakho neyomlingani wakho. Ukuphumula ukukhuluma nje hhayi inkinga yakho.

Besixoxa ngemithetho, izibopho, amazinga obudlelwano be-FLR, namathiphu okwenza izinto zisebenze, kodwa noma kunjalo, ingabe ikhona indlela ubudlelwano obuphethwe ngabesifazane bungahamba kabi?

Yini embi ngobudlelwano be-FLR? Yebo! Njenganoma yisiphi esinye isibopho, ubudlelwano obuholwa ngabesifazane bunobubi babo.

Ake sithole esigabeni esilandelayo.

Bungabheda Kanjani Ubudlelwano Bowesifazane Obuswayo?

Usudlule kuzo zonke izinhlobo zolwazi ngemithetho, amazinga e-FLR, amathiphu, nokuthi ubudlelwano obuholwa ngabesifazane bungazuzisa kanjani amadoda nabesifazane.

Kodwa ingabe kusengaba nzima kweminye imibhangqwana ukwakha ubuhlobo obunempilo obuholwa abesifazane naphezu kokwazi konke?

• Omunye wozakwethu akasazizwa ejabule futhi enelisekile ngayo yonke imisebenzi eyabelwe yona
• Owesilisa noma owesifazane abakwazi ukulinganisa amandla nokusebenzisa kabi amandla
• Umuntu oyedwa kuphela onesandla ekuthuthukisweni kwezinga lobudlelwano, okungamkhungathekisa futhi kumkhungathekise.
• Akusekho ukuhloniphana ebudlelwaneni
• Omunye umlingani unamandla kwezinye izinto, okwenza omunye azizwe kabi.
• Njengoba ubuhlobo buqhubeka, bobabili abantu bazizwa bengenalo uthando ngomunye nomunye.

Amaphutha we-FLR

Njengoba sichazile ekuqaleni, ubudlelwano obuphethwe abesifazane akubona bonke.

Njenganoma yiluphi olunye uhlobo lobudlelwano, bunezinselelo, izingqinamba kanye nezithiyo ezingaba yinselele impela kwesinye isikhathi:

• Izinkambiso zomphakathi kanye nemibono yomphakathi ingaba nomthelela ebudlelwaneni obugculisekile nobujabulisayo be-FLR kwabaqalayo
• Indoda elalelayo ingase ilahlekelwe isithakazelo sokulawulwa kunoma yiliphi izinga.
• Owesifazane ovelele angase akhululeke kakhulu ebudlelwaneni obuphethwe abesifazane futhi angase agcine eqe ukunaka imizwa nemicabango yendoda.
• Izinga eleqile le-FLR linamandla kangangokuthi ngokuvamile libhekwa njengelingenampilo kubo bobabili abantu.
• Ukubusa nokuzithoba, bashintsha izindima zabo zendabuko futhi bathandane kangangokuthi bakhohlwa uthando lwabo.
• Owesifazane angase aqale ukusebenzisa amandla akhe obuholi ngendlela engalungile ukuze alawule ingqondo nomzimba womlingani wakhe.

Isiphetho: Ingabe Ubudlelwano Bomuntu wesifazane buyindlela enhle?

Kunoma yibuphi ubudlelwano, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi owesilisa, owesifazane noma obunye ubudlelwano obuyingqayizivele, isihluthulelo sokulinganisela nenjabulo ukuxhumana okuvulekile nokuqondana.

Impela, owesilisa ovelele kuyinkambiso yendabuko, kodwa asekhona amadoda athanda ukuhlala kude futhi ahoxe kuyo yonke ingcindezi yomphakathi, ukwahlulela, kanye nezibopho zezezimali.

Yebo! Futhi abantu besilisa abanjalo bathanda ukuzama ngokuzithandela ubudlelwano obuholwa ngabesifazane.

Kungani? Ngenxa yokuthi bayaphumula, bazihlalele ekhaya futhi akudingekile ukuba bakhathazeke ngokuhola nokondla umndeni.

Ngakho yebo! Amadoda anjalo angazama i-FLR emnene uma engafuni ukugxumela ebudlelwaneni obuphethwe abesifazane, noma azame i-FLR elinganiselayo lapho esengakwazi ukuhola ezindabeni ezithile.

Kodwa-ke, izibalo nocwaningo lukhombisa ukuthi bobabili abesilisa nabesifazane bakhetha amazinga achaziwe e-FLR futhi kwezinye izimo bakhetha uhlobo oludlulele.

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